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		<title>The New Year&#8217;s New Resolve</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 03 Jan 2010 19:02:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The progress I make seems so tiny that it seems harsh some times to be checking in but I also feel a commitment to what, approached more gently than a score card, remains a good scheme. I wrote down what it is I want to achieve in the coming year and in many ways they [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=workingtitles.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4013027&amp;post=172&amp;subd=workingtitles&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The progress I make seems so tiny that it seems harsh some times to be checking in but I also feel a commitment to what, approached more gently than a score card, remains a good scheme.<br />
I wrote down what it is I want to achieve in the coming year and in many ways they were affirmations of what I have written before.<br />
But there is a little more definition in some areas, while others remain flabby or indistinct or otherwise slightly abandoned.<br />
But I am beginning this year with a renewed sense of determination and a desire to reaffirm my commitment to achieving my goals in life. I am aware of the need for patience with myself that I haven&#8217;t made huge steps and there haven&#8217;t been any giant leaps. But I am still on the road.<br />
<strong>MIND/THINKING/WRITING</strong><br />
For this year I want to do a lot more <strong>reading</strong>: I have a general idea of what I want to read in the coming year: Philosophy and politics plus some more novels.<br />
There is <strong>a freelance writing project </strong>that I really want to make work.<br />
<strong>CREATIVE</strong><br />
Continue working on my novel<br />
Work consistently on my blogs<br />
Finish my collage<br />
Continue knitting and begin selling online<br />
Buy mannequin and improve photos<br />
<strong>WORK</strong><br />
I want to find <strong>two more regular writing opportunities</strong><br />
Pitch for features<br />
<strong>HEALTH</strong><br />
<strong>Walking daily</strong><br />
<strong>Regular exercise</strong><br />
<strong>Reducing the amount of food</strong> I eat<br />
<strong>Morning pages</strong> and time for <strong>meditating</strong><br />
<strong>SOCIAL</strong><br />
Making more effort to see <strong>art shows</strong> and <strong>performances</strong><br />
Making more effort to spend time and keep in touch with friends<br />
<strong>HOME</strong><br />
Finish off the projects I have: chairs; curtains; cushions<br />
Get new storage for the spare room and office</p>
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		<title>Getting back on track..</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 11 Oct 2009 18:22:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[This weekend has been largely taken up with leisurely shopping for food, walking, talking, writing in cafes, and sitting in the park looking at this tree. Weekends are a lot about recovery these days &#8211; and drawing up plans and to do lists to help me achieve things that are about me and my desires, [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=workingtitles.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4013027&amp;post=149&amp;subd=workingtitles&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img src="http://workingtitles.files.wordpress.com/2009/10/ravishing-red1.jpg?w=300&#038;h=225" alt="Ravishing Reds" title="Ravishing Reds" width="300" height="225" class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-159" />This weekend has been largely taken up with leisurely shopping for food, walking, talking, writing in cafes, and sitting in the park looking at this tree.<br />
Weekends are a lot about recovery these days &#8211; and drawing up plans and to do lists to help me achieve things that are about me and my desires, my projects and my passions. Each weekend I realise that I have done way too little towards achieving them.<br />
<strong>So here is a list of things to do that will help me on my way..</strong><br />
Draw up a synopsis of a book idea<br />
Email a features editor with an idea<br />
Finish a freelance project<br />
Submit a regular column<br />
Spend one hour minimum in the morning writing before opening up my email<br />
Get that notebook out that I use for drawing and writing ideas and designs<br />
Go for daily walks &#8211; at least 30 mins each day<br />
Daily stretches and exercise<br />
Reguar breaks from the screen and a few moments to collect myself and assess what I am doing<br />
Buy <a href="http://frenchwomendontgetfat.com/content/iwomen-work-art-savoir-faire-business-sense-sensibilityi">this book</a> (or take a look and see if it&#8217;s any good)</p>
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		<title>Another year over, and a new one just begun&#8230;</title>
		<link>http://workingtitles.wordpress.com/2009/10/03/another-year-over-and-a-new-one-just-begun/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 03 Oct 2009 14:27:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The year has passed and if I was to review my achievements up against the long list of projects I would certainly weep but I am going to add to that list the ability to be imperfect and enjoy it. I start things, I stop things, I berate myself for my forgetfulness and inability to [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=workingtitles.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4013027&amp;post=132&amp;subd=workingtitles&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The year has passed and if I was to review my achievements up against the long list of projects I would certainly weep but I am going to add to that list the ability to be imperfect and enjoy it. I start things, I stop things, I berate myself for my forgetfulness and inability to carry things through.<br />
But I have made progress, with my writing, my poetry, with my work. I could just flounce away from this blog because it reminds me of my failures but that&#8217;s just being churlish.</p>
<p>And so today is the start of another year to see how far I can go.. again.<br />
<div id="attachment_133" class="wp-caption alignleft" style="width: 250px"><img src="http://workingtitles.files.wordpress.com/2009/10/high-line.jpg?w=497" alt="The High LIne by Dale Phurrough " title="High Line"   class="size-full wp-image-133" /><p class="wp-caption-text">The High LIne by Dale Phurrough </p></div></p>
<p>What inspired me most today was a report on <a href="http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/programmes/from_our_own_correspondent/8287091.stm">From Our Own Correspondent</a>on the <a href="http://blog.thehighline.org/">High Line</a>, Manhattan&#8217;s park above the streets. Listening to the report I was struck by the wonderful creativity of turning a disused railway line into something new, vibrant and beautiful that isn’t all about white-washing and commercialisation. It seems to be both a grand gesture towards the past transforming something disused and decaying and redeeming it and turning it into a living and beautiful place &#8211; that isn&#8217;t open only to people who can pay.</p>
<p>Looking through the website brought me to the website for <a href="http://www.thekitchen.org/">the Kitchen</a> which made me dreamy about creative people coming together and building something that makes a difference.<br />
Maybe it should start off small at my dinner table but I do have dreams about bringing people together to work on projects together, to make good things out of what is old, apparently hopeless and going nowhere. A disused railway line transformed into a beautiful open space that helps people see the city from a different perspective. Robert Hammond had gone to a local meeting expecting to hear plans to save it from demolition and discovered there were none. When he met travel writer Joshua David there they discussed what could be done and set up the Friends of the High Line.<br />
I don&#8217;t know what this year is going to bring. But I choose the High Line as my inspiration.</p>
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		<title>School of Life</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 23 Feb 2009 19:08:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Yesterday I wrote about full time work v part time work&#8230; and some of the misery I felt as a result of the slog of work. It&#8217;s not that I don&#8217;t like working but I don&#8217;t thrive on routine and the relentlessness of working five days a week did get me down.. I wanted a [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=workingtitles.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4013027&amp;post=115&amp;subd=workingtitles&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yesterday I wrote about full time work v part time work&#8230; and some of the misery I felt as a result of the slog of work. It&#8217;s not that I don&#8217;t like working but I don&#8217;t thrive on routine and the relentlessness of working five days a week did get me down.. I wanted a more creative way of working. I don&#8217;t work in a factory on a production line and I know in many ways I&#8217;ve got it pretty good. Maybe it&#8217;s ideas I&#8217;ve inherited but somehow the idea that work is all about hard graft, a thankless task has wormed its way into my thinking.<br />
Today I came across Alain de Botton&#8217;s<a href="http://www.alaindebotton.com/cv.asp"> book on the <a href="http://www.alaindebotton.com/work/index.asp"><a href="http://www.alaindebotton.com/work/index.asp">Pleasures and Sorrows </a>of Work</a>, which is also going on my &#8216;to read&#8217; list&#8230;<br />
Alain de Botton is also involved with the <a href="http://www.theschooloflife.com/">School of Life</a>.. I like what Emma Townshend picks up on it in <a href="http://entertainment.timesonline.co.uk/tol/arts_and_entertainment/article4742119.ece">the Times</a>:</p>
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The School of Life is the baby of Sophie Howarth, formerly of Tate Modern, who found herself after five years in the job frustrated by the lack of dialogue between culture and self improvement, two areas that she felt equally passionate about: “The cultural world was just so snooty about everything to do with personal development, but I felt there was so much potential for the two to interact.”</p>
<p>So she decided that it was time for a change. She found the School of Life building, a beautiful Georgian shop in tree-lined Marchmont Street in Bloomsbury, then enlisted all her best contacts, including de Botton, who is a founder member of the teaching staff. Howarth&#8217;s vision was of a place where you could go to think seriously about life, a private but open-doored university where you could take courses, read books and even travel in new ways. </p></blockquote>
<p>Some of the courses are on work, which interests me.. and also the sense of learning and developing as a person. </p>
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		<title>The Idle Parent</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 23 Feb 2009 18:05:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s a discussion we&#8217;ve been having a lot recently.. if we were to have a child how much of what I&#8217;ve termed &#8220;benign neglect&#8221; is feasible before it gets plain neglectful? I live opposite a park where you get to see &#8211; and sometimes feel &#8211; the anxiety of parenting.. yet when I think back [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=workingtitles.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4013027&amp;post=102&amp;subd=workingtitles&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It&#8217;s a discussion we&#8217;ve been having a lot recently.. if we were to have a child how much of what I&#8217;ve termed &#8220;benign neglect&#8221; is feasible before it gets plain neglectful?<br />
I live opposite a park where you get to see &#8211; and sometimes feel &#8211; the anxiety of parenting.. yet when I think back to my parents I don&#8217;t think they were so very anxious about keeping me entertained&#8230; I wasn&#8217;t neglected &#8211; a fact I even had to reassure my Mum of recently after she saw some mothers with their children and thought &#8216;I don&#8217;t remember doing all that&#8217;..<br />
There were activities arranged for our entertainment and education and I did go to some classes but I never got the impression that life revolved around keeping me busy, entertained or stimulated..<span id="more-102"></span><br />
If we went to the pub we got to either sit in the beer garden or in the back of the van, doors open with a bag of crisps and a bottle of Coke, swinging our legs and chatting. Mum or Dad would come and check we were alright every 15 minutes or so and we were..<br />
I know that awareness and perception of danger mean it&#8217;s unlikely that I would leave my children outside a pub but my point is that we loved being left to it.. those were the moments we craved the most.<br />
Also I loved seeing adults being adult. If there were parties I loved listening to the conversations that seemed so funny and smart and somehow sexy.. Once I screwed up listening to a long tale that involved a fight, a bar and piece of steak flying across the room&#8230; &#8216;So why did they get divorced?&#8217;  I asked and my Mum looked at me as if it was the first time she  had seen me. &#8216;It&#8217;s time you were in bed,&#8221; she said.<br />
So I am definitely going to read <a href="http://idler.co.uk/news/the-idle-parent/">The Idle Parent</a>, the new book by Tom Hodgkinson the editor of <a href="http://idler.co.uk/">The Idler</a> when it&#8217;s out on 3 March.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;The Idle Parent is a new book by Tom Hodgkinson which argues that kids and adults alike need to play more and work less. We put far too much effort into parenting. If we leave our kids alone, they will become more self-reliant and we’ll be able to lie in bed for longer.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>The website is intended as a forum for the Idle Parent.. and the first four statements of its manifesto are these..</p>
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We reject the idea that parenting requires hard work<br />
We pledge to leave our children alone<br />
We reject the rampant consumerism that invades children from the moment they are born<br />
We read them poetry and fantastic stories without morals
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		<title>The times are a changing..</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 22 Feb 2009 23:25:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[A couple of photographs.. one of a hat I knitted for Mark &#8211; an indoors hat.. both of us wear hats at home from time to time, which some people have commented on as odd when they&#8217;ve been round but sometimes it is a very comforting thing.. Also I read this about Sue Steward photographing [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=workingtitles.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4013027&amp;post=86&amp;subd=workingtitles&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A couple of photographs.. one of a hat I knitted for Mark &#8211; an indoors hat.. both of us wear hats at home from time to time, which some people have commented on as odd when they&#8217;ve been round but sometimes it is a very comforting thing..<img src="http://workingtitles.files.wordpress.com/2009/02/100_0035.jpg?w=225&#038;h=300" alt="100_0035" title="100_0035" width="225" height="300" class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-89" /></p>
<p>Also I read <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/artanddesign/2009/feb/15/sue-steward-photography-after-death">this about Sue Steward</a> photographing her mother&#8217;s hands after she had died.. The emotion of remembering stayed with me for the rest of the day because I notice peoples&#8217; hands&#8230;  I can still remember my grandmother&#8217;s, whose hands were so like my mother&#8217;s.. and my hands I know are like Mum&#8217;s and my nieces are almost replicas of mine.. Men&#8217;s hands I love too.. and so because when I checked out Mark&#8217;s hands I couldn&#8217;t believe how perfect they were to me, I took a photo of them too..</p>
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Which brings me to something I was reading today: </p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;Our authenticity is found hidden in the small details of our daily round &#8211; home, family, work, pleasures. We think it&#8217;s the big moments that define our lies &#8211; the wedding, the baby, the new house, the dream job. But really these big moments of happiness are just the punctuation marks of our personal sagas. The narrative is written every day in the small, the simple and the common. In your tiny choices, in these tiny changes. In the unconsidered. The overlooked. The discarded. The reclaimed.&#8221; (Sarah Ban Breathnach, <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Something-More-Excavating-Your-Authentic/dp/0446677086">Something More</a>)</p></blockquote>
<p>I have some decisions to make &#8211; about work mainly &#8211; as there may be a job on the horizon. The thing I&#8217;m not sure about is the hours &#8211; it&#8217;s more than I currently do in my part time job and will mean less working at home, more in the office. Working part time has helped me shed the tiredness and sense of drudgery that comes from unrelenting daily routine.. But what I cherish most is the fact that having more time has allowed me to do more things that give me pleasure, to take time over things I usually did with some impatience and always on the hoof. But there&#8217;s a part of me also that isn&#8217;t sure about working at home so much.. I miss the collaborative part of working. So there are questions.. but I think the challenge will be to maintain my joie de vivre whatever I choose to do. </p>
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		<title>Wherever I lay my hat</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Feb 2009 21:46:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[We have a crisis of sorts.. The upshot of which is we&#8217;ve been desperately trying to find accommodation for &#8220;Tyrone&#8221; while he&#8217;s at college.. When it fell on me to make some of the endless calls to the student accommodation services, the college etc I referred to him as &#8216;my husband&#8217;s son&#8217;.. He&#8217;s not my [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=workingtitles.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4013027&amp;post=83&amp;subd=workingtitles&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We have a crisis of sorts.. The upshot of which is we&#8217;ve been desperately trying to find accommodation for &#8220;Tyrone&#8221; while he&#8217;s at college..<br />
When it fell on me to make some of the endless calls to the student accommodation services, the college etc I referred to him as &#8216;my husband&#8217;s son&#8217;.. He&#8217;s not my stepson so that doesn&#8217;t flow easy but I found people stumbled over using the phrase.. &#8220;Your son&#8221; &#8220;your husband&#8217;s.. your&#8230; the son&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Don&#8217;t worry I told her, I&#8217;m not sure how to refer to him myself..&#8221; And I&#8217;m not&#8230; </p>
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		<title>Working at home&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 11 Feb 2009 22:52:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Working at home suits me so much. But there are some things I need to adjust to. First is the fact that working in an office gives definition to the day and although it&#8217;s just as possible to wile away time on the web, there&#8217;s something about the environment that acts as a metronome, helping [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=workingtitles.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4013027&amp;post=74&amp;subd=workingtitles&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Working at home suits me so much. But there are some things I need to adjust to.<br />
First is the fact that working in an office gives definition to the day and although it&#8217;s just as possible to wile away time on the web, there&#8217;s something about the environment that acts as a metronome, helping you keep a steady pace.<br />
I can get mired in a task much more easily at home.. wading through mud rather than skipping from one activity to another.<br />
I&#8217;ve been trying new things: one is going to the cafe in the park near me, where despite the noise of many babies and toddlers I find I can do a good couple of hours of completely focused work. Maybe working from home makes me more conscious of how I use time, more guilty perhaps because I have so much more opportunity to make a day work for me rather than be tied to fixed hours.<br />
Working at home also means you lose the at-work persona. I don&#8217;t mind that but do feel it represents the loss of a fair bit of data feeding your sense of who I am.<span id="more-74"></span><br />
I can see that it&#8217;s not for everyone and I don&#8217;t think I would have liked it so much when I was younger and working was as much about social life as the work itself. But I am convinced that working at home most of the time is the most effective way to guarantee I have time to spend on other things I want to do. Life seems richer and less driven and I appreciate so much how not having to commute to work each day on my energy levels and mood &#8211; I was getting ground down by the slog of it all.<br />
I&#8217;ve read some good things about working at home including <a href="http://howto.wired.com/wiki/Actually_Work_From_Home_When_You_Work_From_Home">this one</a>.<br />
I like 1: &#8220;Switch into work mode. It&#8217;s hard to feel like a productive professional with flannel jammies, fuzzy slippers, and bed head. Get up, take a shower, and dress like you&#8217;re actually going to work (because, hey &#8212; you are).&#8221;<br />
I realised early on that it didn&#8217;t work for me if I didn&#8217;t dress right.. I couldn&#8217;t do efficiency and authority wearing tracksuit bottoms. So I bought some great roll top trousers from <a href="http://www.thewhitecompany.com/department.aspx?DepGrpCode=MWOMENSWEAR">here</a> and some wrap tops <a href="http://www.kew-online.com/fcp/categorylist/sale/dresses?resetFilters=true&amp;utm_source=netmediaplanet&amp;utm_medium=search&amp;utm_campaign=affiliate&amp;gclid=CLPToeHF1pgCFYR_3godDUBocA">here </a>that are comfortable but make me feel &#8220;dressed&#8221;.<br />
What also helps me switch into work mode is walking with Mark to work &#8211; he leaves at 7.15 am sometimes, which means that if I can force myself to get up I arrive back at home having have had half an hour walk and feel ready to start the working day.<br />
Some good stuff too about working from home on Amber McNaught&#8217;s <a href="http://www.writingworld.org/working_from_home_/">Writing World blog</a> including a link to some 2007 research on <a href="http://www.hrworld.com/">HR World</a> on <a href="http://www.hrworld.com/features/101-reasons-to-freelance-091007/">101 Reasons why freelancers are happier</a>.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[I wrote about getting to know the-teenager-who-wishes-to-be known-as-Tyrone on another blog here.. But thinking about it today it fits much more into this blog.. because this is about what I&#8217;m learning and how I&#8217;m progressing. I like the thought of moving forward with this situation, both through reading and asking other people about how they [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=workingtitles.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4013027&amp;post=70&amp;subd=workingtitles&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I wrote about getting to know the-teenager-who-wishes-to-be known-as-Tyrone on another blog <a href="http://julietomlin.wordpress.com/2009/02/10/i-wish-you-were-sean-connery/">here</a>.. But thinking about it today it fits much more into this blog.. because this is about what I&#8217;m learning and how I&#8217;m progressing. I like the thought of moving forward with this situation, both through reading and asking other people about how they cope in similar situations.<br />
(This brings to mind the approach of <a href="http://afemmeduncertainage.blogspot.com/2009/02/feeling-blue.html">A Femme d&#8217;un Certain Age</a> of asking other women about what they do).<br />
Can you for instance insist on respect? My friend Anne says she won&#8217;t allow her son to put her down. &#8220;But at the same time you have to avoid competing with them,&#8221; she says. </p>
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		<title>Act Like An Egg&#8230;</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[A couple of books have been on my mind this week &#8211; a week when I can see where I want to be and even see that a lot of the substance of it is here and operating.. But I seem stuck in certain patterns. One of the books is this Creating A Life Worth [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=workingtitles.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4013027&amp;post=67&amp;subd=workingtitles&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A couple of books have been on my mind this week &#8211; a week when I can see where I want to be and even see that a lot of the substance of it is here and operating.. But I seem stuck in certain patterns.<br />
One of the books is this <a href="http://www.creatingalifeworthliving.com/">Creating A Life Worth Living</a> by Carol Lloyd. I need to hunt it down because it was a very helpful book when I first read it two years ago. It inspired me to think differently about what I want to do and to think about ways you can look after the practical things of life while tending to the things that are really important.<br />
Life has changed a lot. I work part time, three days a week and only one of them is in the office.. the rest I work at home which means I can work a lot more flexibly. But there&#8217;s something about the way I work that hasn&#8217;t quite latched on to the new way of doing things..<br />
It was this feeling of being out of sync that made me think about the second book: Twyla Tharp&#8217;s <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Creative-Habit-Learn-Use-Life/dp/0743235274">The Creative Habit</a> Learn It and Use It For Life.<br />
It&#8217;s the habit aspect of it that I&#8217;m interested in.. I haven&#8217;t got a lack of time as an excuse for not doing what I want to do, but I seem to be shaped by the old pressures still somehow.<br />
It&#8217;s as if I&#8217;m standing at the edge looking in.. I can see there are things there to do but I don&#8217;t feel able to fully engage with them.<br />
If my days are left to their own devices it slides, like a tray full of objects, towards the most urgent, although not always the most important.<br />
So I need to look again at what it is I want to do and begin doing them&#8230; which brings me to the egg.<br />
Tharp recommends a daily exercise called <strong>A Dozen Eggs</strong>. </p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;I sit on the floor, bring my knees to my chest, curl my head down to my knees, and try to make myself as small as I can. In this minimalized shrunken state, I have nowhere else to go; I cannot become smaller, I can only expand and grow. And so it becomes a ritual of discovery for me. If I lift my head and straighten my back I become Tall Egg&#8230;<br />
&#8220;I also like Egg because it forces you to think about change. Once you shrink yourself into a fetal ball, you have no choice to do something expansive. You cannot hold the starting position forever, though you can hold it for as long as you like. Eventually, though, you&#8217;ll have to do something. Egg is an exercise that teaches you how to accomplish the most difficult task in any creative endeavor: begin.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>Another suggestion I like because it also challenges me to take this work seriously, is: Take a Field Trip.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;When scratching turns into frustration, take a walk. But just don&#8217;t walk anywhere. Add some utility to it. Have a goal. Turn it into a field trip by imbuing the walk with a steely determination to come back with something in hand.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
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